I know I don't have much "street cred" on this issue. I am as white as they come. So I refer you to someone who does, Pam Spalding.
Pam's House Blend is a wonderful blog on LGBT issues. I read it all the time.
Here is her introductory note and then the link. I hope we can end the awkward silence.
Note from Pam: OK, I know people can be hesitant to jump into a thread that touches upon race. Don't let it become an orphan thread. Speak your mind - be part of the solution of open communication, not part of the problem - continued silence about this thorny issueThe Time is NOW!